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Falling Apart or Falling into Place?

10/16/2017

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I'm taking another short break in our series in Psalms to share with you a lesson I learned this weekend.  As you know, Barnabas (our new dog) suffers from severe anxiety issues.  As he's gotten to know and trust us, he's gotten much better, but he still has a difficult time with separation anxiety. . .especially where Jason is concerned.  Yes, we realized that he reacts much better to my absence than he does to Jason's (talk about feeling loved!).

Anyway, in route to our hiking destination this past weekend, we needed to make a quick stop on the way.  Jason typically goes into the store, leaving me to sit with the dog in the car, but with Barnabas' issue, we've been swapping roles.  However, as we discussed this, we realized he would never learn if we didn't put him in the position to learn.  Here's the gist of what I said, "I know he gets upset and freaks out, but he will never figure out how to deal with these issues unless we make him face them.  I hate to do it to him because I know how anxious he gets, but I hope that, over time, he'll experience this type of situation enough to realize that everything is under control, and it's no big deal."

There's that heavenly thump in the back of my head.  The words came out of my mouth, but I heard them in a different voice altogether.  Instead of me talking to Jason about Barnabas, it was as if God was speaking to Jesus about me.  "Yes, I know she gets upset and freaks out, but she will never figure out how to deal with these issues unless we make her face them.  I hate to do it to her because I know how anxious she gets, but I hope that, over time, she'll experience this type of situation enough to realize that everything is under control, and it's no big deal."

I learned that exposure to stressful situations is not some cruel, cosmic joke or some form of punishment for the wrong I've done but rather a teaching experience.  Through this experience with Barnabas, I feel I better understand what it means to go through tough times and what God expects from us.  He hopes we will learn, grow, and increase our faith.  He doesn't long to see us tired, weary and anxious, but He knows it's the only way we'll learn to trust Him fully.  Sometimes, the only way to overcome a problem is to face it head-on time and again until we are victorious.

Barnabas is figuring this out as well.  Jason went in the store, and while our poor pup pitched a bit of a fit, it was a smaller tantrum than it had been in times past.  We also made another stop on the way home.  This one was longer, but Barnabas did reasonably well.  He's learning.  He's understanding that he doesn't have to freak out every time he's unsure of what's taking place.  He's beginning to comprehend we love him and have his best interest at heart.  It may take several more tries before the fits stop altogether, but progress is progress, so I'm happy.
I wonder, though, can God say the same about me?  Am I learning?  Am I understanding?  I believe I am.  No, I haven't arrived, but progress is progress, and God is still working on me.  He's still working on you too, so don't despair when you find yourself in difficult straits.  Know that He loves you enough to do what's necessary to help you grow.

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ: - Philippians 1:6
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What's at the Root of Your Anxiety Issues?

10/2/2017

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The Lord has a sense of humor.  As most of you know, I am not the calmest or most logically thinking individual.  Perhaps that's why the Lord inspired me to write a book for those like me who often find themselves anxious or depressed.  Perhaps that's also the reason God entrusted to me a new loveable mutt who has anxiety issues.  Yes, our new family member, Barnabas, is just like me.  When faced with the unknown or unfamiliar, he resorts to either pitching a fit or crying like a baby.  Yep!  Just.  Like.  Me.

As I prayed for wisdom and peace to train Barnabas so he'll realize he's safe and loved, I had to laugh.  It's all too much like the blind leading the blind.  Yes, I've come a long way with my anxiety issues, but seeing Barnabas' behavior over the past several days has made me realize I still have a long way to go.  His anxiety is making me anxious.  Please don't misunderstand.  He's a wonderful, loving dog who wants to please, but like most animals from the shelter, he has a few trust and anxiety issues.  Or perhaps it would be better to say he has anxiety issues that stem from a lack of trust.  He hasn't been with us long enough to understand that we'll take good care of him.  He doesn't know yet that we have his best interest at heart when we correct him or try to train him in the way he needs to behave.  He doesn't understand yet that our love for him doesn't depend on his behavior.  And so, he's skittish.  Leery.  Suspicious.  Yet hopeful.

As I examine his behavior and the reasons behind it, I can only nod in understanding.  Been there, done that.  Just like Barnabas, my anxiety issues stem from a lack of trust.  It's taken me a while to understand that my Master will take good care of me.  It's sometimes difficult for me to remember that He has my best interest at heart, even when He has to correct me or train me in the way I should go.  Sometimes I forget my Master's love for me isn't dependent on my behavior.  And so, I'm anxious.  Too afraid to trust in what I should already know.

Fortunately, my Master is patient and kind, and He will never give up on me.  No matter how trying it may be.  No matter how much time it takes.  His love for me is so great that He will continue to work with me and on me until I know and understand, without a doubt, how much He loves me.  Likewise, I will do the same with Barnabas.  It may cost some time, lack of sleep, and a few tears (both his and mine), but I know we'll get through this because our love holds true.  And when we're done, that sweet mutt of mine will know, without a doubt, how much we love him!

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ: - Philippians 1:6
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    dana rongione

    Welcome to the Rise Up and Build blog.  I, like you, have had many battles against anxiety and depression, but now I know there is a better way to live.  I have found the path to the abundant life Jesus promised, and I want to show you the way!

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